tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post110080820435771929..comments2023-10-12T01:14:19.284-07:00Comments on Taking the Scenic Route to Joy: SilenceLisa @ The Plain-Spoken Penhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15589278128659676715noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post-1100897028706355052004-11-19T12:43:00.000-08:002004-11-19T12:43:00.000-08:00Tommy, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! ...Tommy, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! It's always interesting to get other people's perspectives. Maybe when I said I might be better with a man who doesn't need for me to make him feel needed, it would have been more precise to say a man who doesn't need me to make him feel needed (because he already knows I'd appreciate and love him for anything he does, regardless of whether I ask him for the help or not) but who appreciates it when I do make him feel needed (and doesn't view my asking for/needing help as a burden or imposition).<br /><br />L.Lisa @ The Plain-Spoken Penhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15589278128659676715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post-1100896580161352902004-11-19T12:36:00.000-08:002004-11-19T12:36:00.000-08:00Generally speaking, we men are a sad lot, we want ...Generally speaking, we men are a sad lot, we want to be needed but then we don't always want to have to take care of someone. I want my wife to be strong, but still look at me as if I could do anything. I need her to help me feel confident that I can succeed at anything that I need to do, but I really don't want to have to do anything you see I'm really pretty lazy. But when something has to be done, I need MG to expect me to be able to do it. I don't want my wife to stop being a strong, independent woman; but I need her to be vulnerable every once in a while. To me that shows that she trusts that I won't take advantage of her vulnerabilities and hurt her. Our marriage works so well because in essence we alternate the dominant/ submissive roles depending on who is stronger in needed skillset at the time. We do butt heads at times but we both know that its not meant in a hurtful way so we quickly get past the problem and keep going. You will never find a "perfect" man but you can find the one who is perfect for you. The main thing is trust, and that can take some time to build.Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01739145033253757129noreply@blogger.com