tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post110684949001186987..comments2023-10-12T01:14:19.284-07:00Comments on Taking the Scenic Route to Joy: Just a day.Lisa @ The Plain-Spoken Penhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15589278128659676715noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post-1106943713345730302005-01-28T12:21:00.000-08:002005-01-28T12:21:00.000-08:00Thanks, y'all! (Chris, I resemble that remark abo...Thanks, y'all! (Chris, I resemble that remark about women! LOLOL)<br /><br />I guess my problem is, I do have a hard time asking for help if it's something I *can* do myself, even if it's a challenge for me. I tend not to think to cater to the male ego and ask for help if it's something I can do for myself, and maybe that's something I need to work on. It's not like I feel like I'm admitting weakness if I ask for help, it's just that it honestly doesn't occur to me to ask for help if I can handle it alone, even if it's something I'd appreciate help with. Did that even make sense? I don't ask for help until I really need it, is what I'm saying, and I don't think to ask for help to make a guy feel needed. Hmm. From what y'all have said, I may have to be more aware of that tendency of mine in the future.<br /><br />L.Lisa @ The Plain-Spoken Penhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15589278128659676715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post-1106942993864130912005-01-28T12:09:00.000-08:002005-01-28T12:09:00.000-08:00I think Jay has this right. Make us feel useful on...I think Jay has this right. Make us feel useful on occasion, but don't nag us when we are about to do something. Guys are difficult to understand, but we're a hell of a lot easier to figure out then a woman.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139257865254855640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9102310.post-1106859074262986832005-01-27T12:51:00.000-08:002005-01-27T12:51:00.000-08:00It has something to do with being raised in the la...It has something to do with being raised in the last half of the twentieth century in America.<br /><br />Ask, tell, nag, etc. Most will not do it for us. Somehow, someway, you have to hit that part of his brain that responds out of love and will keep responding, at least until he forgets.<br /><br />Nag when he's about to do it on his own and you both lose. Tell him how when he already knows how and he's pissed. Act like his mother and he'll respond like a baby.<br /><br />Good luck. When you figure it out write a book.<br /><br />Raise your son to be the way you'ld like your man to be. He will eventually thank you, and some day his wife will also.<br /><br />JayJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15420715964355120988noreply@blogger.com